A Question for the Women o' the Board Options

[Blodwyn]

so what if you hit on someone with a ring?
it might make their day
it's not like he's saying "hey ladies of the noiseboard, do you think it'd be okay if i approached a woman and licked the side of her face?"

well, I'm guessing the point of hitting on her would be to have coffee/start a relationship, etc. - not to make her day.

[Ms. JJ Millie]

well, I'm guessing the point of hitting on her would be to have coffee/start a relationship, etc. - not to make her day.

meh...whatever, i'm not against just letting people know that they're attractive.

[Blodwyn]

meh...whatever, i'm not against just letting people know that they're attractive.

well, if she's happily married she should already know that - and if she's not, well then, I guess the OP just might fuck a married lady!!

[JodyThePig]

I would imagine that in a Target or any other store, really, a woman is likely just trying to shop without being hit on.

Therefore it's a good idea for the dude to let her go about her shopping without disturbing her.

Then, once she's done with her transactions, follow her home.

[JuJuagogo]

so what if you hit on someone with a ring?
it might make their day
it's not like he's saying "hey ladies of the noiseboard, do you think it'd be okay if i approached a woman and licked the side of her face?"

Funny you mention this - I was told by a work friend yesterday that she was hit on in the Cafeteria by a man wearing a ring - mind you - she's wearing a the most beautiful gigantuous custom made Diamond on her finger - so its obvious she's taken as well

But you know what - she loves her husband to be - they are made for each other - but it definitely put a spring in her step - she was glowing - its ALWAYS nice to know if someone finds you attractive/appealing/interesting - Men love it to! I tell my male friends if I think they are cute - they are my friends they know i'm not hitting on them - and I mean it! Hell there is a guy in work who ALWAYS flirts with me and told me once I was single (which I am now and haven't told him) he was next in line - I know he's just playing but it makes me feel good.

[woof.]

I am going over in my head all the dudes I know who I consider to be awesome...and not one of them would approach a woman he didn't know out of the blue hoping to get a name and a number.

I will agree and admit that I have *never* scored the digite this way, nor have I asked, so there ya go.

you are also right on the money about signals. eye contact and a smile...say hey, if not, let it alone.

but as they say, you cannot win, if you do not play.

ed. "digite" is french for telephone number

This post has been edited by sparky-the-cat: Mar 14 2008, 11:37 AM

[CalGal]

Suppose you were shopping, or looking around a record store, or going about your business and a moderately attractive (non-ugly) guy approached you and struck up a conversation which ended in him asking you out to coffee or something. Would you ever go for something like that?

What I'm asking is, when I see a cute girl at Target, should I leave her the fuck alone, or should I gather the guts it would take to approach her as such? Recipe for disaster?

Well if she works at Target she's probably not so picky...

[JoeO]

go on the net and get on dateline

[Ms. JJ Millie]

well, if she's happily married she should already know that - and if she's not, well then, I guess the OP just might fuck a married lady!!

i dunno, i don't think that a spouse needs to be the ONLY person allowed to find you attractive.
i forgot, this is boston, everyone keep quiet! don't make eye contact! STOP BREATHING FOR CHRISSAKES!

[Blodwyn]

i dunno, i don't think that a spouse needs to be the ONLY person allowed to find you attractive.
i forgot, this is boston, everyone keep quiet! don't make eye contact! STOP BREATHING FOR CHRISSAKES!

well, actually, I just came from California and I found the friendliness very disconcerting.

whatever - I'm thinking of the poster's benefit, not the hitted-upon. It's a waste of time for him if there's no way in hell she's gonna bite. Unless it's a shame-reducing experience like those guys in Japan who have to fart in public in order to learn not to care what people think.

[MizValentine]

If a guy tried to pick me up while I was wearing a wedding ring, I wouldn't think he was a creep.

I'd be ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE he's a creep.

[TYR]

I will agree and admit that I have *never* scored the digite this way, nor have I asked, so there ya go.

you are also right on the money about signals. eye contact and a smile...say hey, if not, let it alone.

but as they say, you cannot win, if you do not play.

ed. "digite" is french for telephone number

Do I know you?

You win as soon as you stop playing...

[TC Spitzz]

Its way more effective if you hit on a woman who works behind the counter. Then you can show up everyday and hit on her and she's forced to talk to you while you ask questions about items. Its like hunting at the zoo.

[Atom Brain]

Its way more effective if you hit on a woman who works behind the counter. Then you can show up everyday and hit on her and she's forced to talk to you while you ask questions about items. Its like hunting at the zoo.

Long ago when I worked behind a counter I CRINGED every time this happened to women I worked with. These guys would act like it was a date coming in every time the poor girl worked. As if he was thinking "See! She showed up again to see me!"

[woof.]

Do I know you?

You win as soon as you stop playing...

oh, aren't we the clever one...

you wanna go have a drink sometime? I have great meat...

[Ms. JJ Millie]

well, actually, I just came from California and I found the friendliness very disconcerting.

whatever - I'm thinking of the poster's benefit, not the hitted-upon. It's a waste of time for him if there's no way in hell she's gonna bite. Unless it's a shame-reducing experience like those guys in Japan who have to fart in public in order to learn not to care what people think.

Um...what? Do people in Japan get paid to tell these guys to fart in public? What a racket!
I think the more people get used to talking to people, the easier it gets to just deal with whatever the response is. So instead of second guessing everything you say, just say it and see what sticks.
Plus, I'm not some uber babe who gets hit on all the time so dealing with the peons who deign to speak to me hasn't really been a problem for me.

[Blodwyn]

Um...what? Do people in Japan get paid to tell these guys to fart in public? What a racket!
I think the more people get used to talking to people, the easier it gets to just deal with whatever the response is. So instead of second guessing everything you say, just say it and see what sticks.
Plus, I'm not some uber babe who gets hit on all the time so dealing with the peons who deign to speak to me hasn't really been a problem for me.

it's part of some MBA program designed to reduce shame so they are more ruthless in their business behavior. They have to do other things like walk around naked, sing, etc.

[Ms. JJ Millie]

it's part of some MBA program designed to reduce shame so they are more ruthless in their business behavior. They have to do other things like walk around naked, sing, etc.

NAKED WHERE???
man, i'd be great at a job humilating people ...y'know, for the sake of their education, of course.

[TYR]

you wanna go have a drink sometime? I have great meat...

Cute, very cute...

[benhamean]

"digite" is french for telephone number

You should trot that gem out in Tarjzay-

[Evil Eddie C]

Hell there is a guy in work who ALWAYS flirts with me and told me once I was single (which I am now and haven't told him) he was next in line - I know he's just playing but it makes me feel good.

Heheh...I said that to a girl at work, once.








She broke up with the asshole, and now we have four kids. Shazam! (True Story)

[subplop]

So, essentially this concept of meeting a female in shop, striking up a converstaion, and having a solid relationship is just what bad writing and hollywood has instilled in our minds? Kind of like how lazy writers have their characters pass out or get knocked out when they need them to change locals quickly?

Do you think we would dream differently if we didn't absorb so much media? I think my dreams are over directed.

[Mrs. Rockit]

I'd be more open if someone struck up a conversation in a store, movie line, airplane, etc..than in a bahhhh. Makes it more spontaneous and less of a ominous atmosphere. (Then again I'm not too keen on the bar pick-up scenario anyway.)

I met Rockit at Sam Goody when he was working there as assistant manager. He delivers excellent customer service.

... I still have the card sitting on my desk - he was cute too... I'll probably never call him because i'm just as ball less sometimes - but it makes me smile when I look at it Then again, maybe i'll have a gutsy moment.

So - take a chance you never know......

Have a gutsy moment!! It makes you smile to look at it...that's a good start. I'd be willing to bet it took him a little bit o' the guts to ask as well. For the most part we're all lookin' for a little companionship.

This post has been edited by Mrs. Rockit: Mar 14 2008, 12:57 PM

[lisalisa]

For the most part we're all lookin' for a little companionship.

Here here! So correct. It seems people are alone because they just don't take a chance. I say go ahead and risk it. If she/he turns you down you were alone anyway.

[TYR]

So, essentially this concept of meeting a female in shop, striking up a converstaion, and having a solid relationship is just what bad writing and hollywood has instilled in our minds? Kind of like how lazy writers have their characters pass out or get knocked out when they need them to change locals quickly?

Do you think we would dream differently if we didn't absorb so much media? I think my dreams are over directed.

I have a friend who was walking out of a bakery in the East Village, and bumped into a guy who spilled her coffee all over her. He then offered to buy her another at a coffee shop around the corner. They ended up dating for 5 years.